confusing social outcomes v. clinging women

[MachinegunHead]

Background: I'm 18, have only ever dated one girl, which lasted 6 months and ended up with her breaking it off completely out of the blue and for no reason and for some stupid reason she was devestated (crying a fair bit 5-10 minutes after) and I was fairly indifferent. This was one year ago. Since then I haven't met a single girl that can hold my attention for more than 2 weeks.

Main story: Well, recently I was talking to some girl who is a friend of a friend, over the net, and I had a feeling that there could possibly be potential there, so I decided to meet up with her during a music festival. So I did, and as per usual on the Internet, she looked a whole lot worse than she did in her photos (I should have seen this coming). I figured I'd roll with it anyway, as I'm not one to say, "DAYM BITCH, NO WAI!", so I did. Just before we were going to go see the next act (I met up with her maybe half way through the day), she said, "hang on, my friends want to come, I'll be right back. 3 or so minutes later, she returns, without friends, so despite the fact that I am sure that she knew where they were I said, "So did you find them?", and she said, "nope". I didn't think anything of it at the time.

Once we'd seen the band, we went to go sit down, and had a little talk, and there was a moments silence in which she picked up her phone to read her messages. Through some ninja eye work, I counted 4 messages of her friends asking her, "where are you?". I started thinking, "uhhh". So it had been about an hour and a half since we met up, and I was aching to get back to having some fun with my friends, so I tried to shake her by saying, "my friends wanna meet up with me at the boiler room...", to which she said, "oh really? mine too". So we left, and went in there, and I looked for my friends, and then when I told her I spotted them, she said, "oh I spotted my friends too, it was REALLY nice meeting you, we should do it again some time".

So if your thinking the same way I was, you'd conclude that this girl enjoys what she saw, and was putting her friends aside to hang around with me, but the problem is, that I felt 0 chemistry, and I actually thought she was somewhat dull. I'm hoping some of you know have some advice for someone in my situation, as I don't really date much anymore, and I sure as hell don't feel like dating someone I don't really like, 'just because'.

Also, just to make it worse, later on that night, another girl started to latch onto me, and she added me on msn a few nights ago and has started trying to converse with me frequently. Problem being, yet again, that I am not really attracted to her at all. Although I don't see this girl as a problem, as she is great friend material, and I'll probably be able to establish that with her fairly easily.


Cliffs:
1) Friend of a friend starts talking over internet
2) Meet up during music festival
3) Girl likes what she sees, I don't.
4) Girl palms off friends for me.
5) I try to shake girl, to almost no avail.
6) Later on it happens again with a different girl.
7) ....
8) Profit?

Condensed into a question: What advice do you have for a guy that seems to attract many women that he doesn't find attractive at all, and who has been out of the game for a year?

[toga]

Just don't talk to them?

Maybe only talk to girls you actually find attractive?

[Scurvy Sailor]

Don't be flirty with them, try to be indifferent as possible, if you hang out at all make comments that show you are interested in other chicks.

Just keep looking for one that does interest you, sometimes it just takes time, don't rush things, enjoy being single for now.

[MachinegunHead]

Originally Posted by Scurvy Sailor

Don't be flirty with them, try to be indifferent as possible, if you hang out at all make comments that show you are interested in other chicks.

Just keep looking for one that does interest you, sometimes it just takes time, don't rush things, enjoy being single for now.

Surprisingly, the whole, "show you are interested in other chicks" think completely slipped my mind, despite the fact that I've felt it once first hand. Cheers.

[Golf(e)]

Originally Posted by Scurvy Sailor

Don't be flirty with them, try to be indifferent as possible, if you hang out at all make comments that show you are interested in other chicks.

Just keep looking for one that does interest you, sometimes it just takes time, don't rush things, enjoy being single for now.

With a lot of girls, especially clingy ones, this would just make them want you more.

Heres what im saying: dont fucking think about it. You go on dates. You go on a lot of dates. Meet a lot of people. You like em, you dont like em, whatever, youre young and experimenting, youre learning about yourself, other people, and the relationships you maintain with them. Eventually you will meet a girl you have a connection with, and as though it was a scene from a movie, everything will happen naturally and it will be great. Just roll with it, you go on more dates than half the people that post here anyway.

As far as how to handle girls that wont leave you alone: usually after so longof giving em the cold shoulder theyll get the point and fade away. If not, honesty never fails. It cant. Polite and sincere. I had a nice time with you but i felt no chemistry there, thanks, have a good one.

you know, i mean...whatever. theres not enough time in your life to go around worrying about everyone else tip toeing around to spare their feelings. we all live and learn, ya dig son?

[fiestafish]

If you've just met up with these girls as friends, I don't think you really owe them anything. If you aren't interested in a relationship with them, just don't act like you are. If they are insistent, I agree with Golf(e)- polite honesty is the best response and will save both parties grief.

[BobSutan]

Originally Posted by MachinegunHead

Condensed into a question: What advice do you have for a guy that seems to attract many women that he doesn't find attractive at all, and who has been out of the game for a year?

You need to friendzone them. Be clear that you can be friends, are being nice to them about it, but make sure they understand you're not interested in anything romantic. Also, just because you're not attracted to them doesn't mean you can't still be friends. For some reason I've noticed women handle this much better than guys for some reason. That or they're better at hiding rejection. Plus they might have hot friends

[mainbrotha]

Why the hell was this thread bumped?

[Golf(e)]

oh

[Golf(e)]

well then.... *ahem*

carry on.

edit: well why was it on the first page of bc then, huh

[fapling]

what got me was, i was like "no he's not 18, he's 20! unless he was lying whenever he said he was 20.. fuck, i guess he's 18."

[flshdncr]

we need mgh to update his personal life in this thread, stat.

also, pics should be included.

[MachinegunHead]

what the fuck, I barely remember this. I kind of remember that first girl, but not the second one.

update: Nothing ever happened with both girls, and I still attract a lot of girls who I have no chemistry with. At the moment I'm single, but there is a girl I am interested in. I took her out to dinner a month ago, but we've had exams since then, so now we're pretty much back at square one. Although I'm going out tonight, so maybe I'll meet someone fresh. No pics

[flshdncr]

Originally Posted by MachinegunHead

what the fuck, I barely remember this. I kind of remember that first girl, but not the second one.

update: Nothing ever happened with both girls, and I still attract a lot of girls who I have no chemistry with. At the moment I'm single, but there is a girl I am interested in. I took her out to dinner a month ago, but we've had exams since then, so now we're pretty much back at square one. Although I'm going out tonight, so maybe I'll meet someone fresh. No pics

sound fun!

[MachinegunHead]

Originally Posted by brkdncr

sound fun!

wasn't