Girl Can't 'Love'

[VxonFlibby]

Ok so i've been seeing this girl for about 3 months now, everything is great with us, but the problem comes when she randomly came out with the fact that she can't love anyone apparently.

usually I just joke around like 'aww you love me really' kind of stuff, but to be honest I don't think i am in Love with her yet, but if we kept going...I know i would fall in love with her, and if she's TOTALLY not able to fall in love, which she says does bother her and she doesn't like it and has said 'i wish i could' then meh I am unsure.

For the record I know she isn't saying this to avoid any commitment issues etc I am just wondering if anyone has anything similar , or any ideas on how i procede.

[LOLMAN]

she can, but is probably just afraid to because of earlier things in her life.

give her time and just make her feel comfortable and sure about your relationship.

[De7|ro|i7]

How old are you guys?

[chronage]

Originally Posted by De7|ro|i7

How old are you guys?

Date of Birth:
May 3, 1987

[Thresher]

Originally Posted by VxonFlibby

Ok so i've been seeing this girl for about 3 months now, everything is great with us, but the problem comes when she randomly came out with the fact that she can't love anyone apparently.

usually I just joke around like 'aww you love me really' kind of stuff, but to be honest I don't think i am in Love with her yet, but if we kept going...I know i would fall in love with her, and if she's TOTALLY not able to fall in love, which she says does bother her and she doesn't like it and has said 'i wish i could' then meh I am unsure.

For the record I know she isn't saying this to avoid any commitment issues etc I am just wondering if anyone has anything similar , or any ideas on how i procede.

I've met a couple of girls who said that they never loved anyone and never will. Don't know what's wrong wtih them.

[nymph4fun]

If she's so strongly in that mind set, then she WONT be able to love cause she wont let herself. Its like thinking that you're gonna bomb at a test, and even if you know the material, your negativity will over ride.

Did she give you a reason as to why she thinks she cant love? what about her family, does she not love any of them?

[theNoid]

Originally Posted by VxonFlibby

For the record I know she isn't saying this to avoid any commitment issues etc I am just wondering if anyone has anything similar , or any ideas on how i procede.

You use the word 'know' like you have some proof or something. Fact is you don't know, you're assuming ... And you know that they say about people who ASSUME. You make an ASS out of U and ME.

Shes saying this to avoid any commitment sorry.

You're young and she's playing the situation. Shes doing the classic female move. They keep themselves at just a distance to where they can get all your attention, but spring free at ANY MOMENT guilt free and blame it on X Y Z.

Shes saying this to avoid any commitment sorry.

[De7|ro|i7]

Originally Posted by chronage

Date of Birth:
May 3, 1987

Man, you are too young for this crap then. Don't worry so much and just enjoy the time you spend together.

That "joking" you do with her is you trying to get her to say it to you. You obviously want to hear it. Shes not there, and does not want to be there. Either accept it and enjoy what you got or move on. Its not worth it to deal with it.

Also, QFT on TheNoid.

[Juturna]

It's a test. Everything is a fucking test with females. There are very few actual problems with them, except for the fact that they fucking test.

If she tells you that she can't love, she may feel she has a justification not to reciprocate your romantic behaviour. If she tells you that she can't love, she may feel that you will be intrigued by her complex problem. If she tells you that she can't love, and you still have been seeing her for 3 months, it may be a tactic to keep you on the leash, or to try your hardest in proving her wrong. Resulting in you completely spoiling her.

That is not to say she doesn't want to be with you though. What I say, or what theNoid says, are educated guesses, but are still guesses nonetheless. This can all be pure speculation.

[theNoid]

Agreed, there is no end all be all answer when it comes to women. If there was and I knew it ? Shit I'd be a rich man.

Point is, you really have to ask yourself.. "Why can't she love anyone?" I can in the least guarantee the answer will be long, drawn out, full of excuses but basically can be summed up by one word ...

"Issues"

I'm sure she's a great chick, and I hope for the best Just be leary and don't ignore this or pretend you can make her love you with time. She will crush you later when she says "I told you in the beginning I couldn't love..." That will be her fall back excuse, that I can guarantee.

Be smarter then the game, you now have a vision of what 'could' happen later down the line. Prepare and live on.

[yolo]

Yup, Noid hits the nail on the thread here

A lot of women will do ANYTHING to avoid being confrontational or direct, and quite often if you hit them with a hardball question they'll be sarcastic or respond with another question.

I hate to say it, but treat her like she wants to be treated. She may be telling the truth, but she's also a woman, and will do things to induce certain behaviors out of her man( women do this A LOT)

[VxonFlibby]

I guess this is true, she is currently stalling on coming back to meet my parents ( despite me having met hers about 3 times :S ) by bringing up lots of 'throw away' phrases like 'oh i want to lose weight' despite not being large at all, I don't know i mean my last girlfriend and I broke up as she cheated on me by sleeping with some dude, and this girl has already got so drunk that her friend had to tell her she kissed some other dude..

Oh and she knows this is her one and only chance not to act like that, she drinks too much when she goes out, I don't mind usually but when a girl doesn't control herself with drink it gets beyond a joke...

[De7|ro|i7]

Dude, she "needs to lose weight" to meet the parents?


Drop her. 4rls.

[Sf_J]

It's her disclaimer so she doesn't have to take responsibility for any future shit moves she's likely going to make.

[mainbrotha]

3 months. don't expect true love to happen so quickly.