Troubleshooting upcoming second date

[zëro]

So I went on this date with this one girl a few weeks ago. It went well and we both agreed to meet again, so tomorrow we're getting together. I called tonight to work out a time and place, and she said early evening is best, since she promised to go clubbing with this one guy "Jakey" at 11 pm tomorrow night. During our first date, the girl got a text from "Jakey" and turned him down on an offer to go clubbing, spending the night with me until we parted ways at 1 am. Now I know "Jakey" as an acquaintance, and he's openly gay at least.

I'm wondering how to approach this. Am I to end the night's activities early on my terms, "persuade" her to cancel plans with "Jakey," or something else? I can't help but feel like I've lost control of the situation already. What would you do?

[shift_6ix]

you're fine as of right now. If the girl is controlling the situation then it's her fault fur not asking for your input. Also let the girl control and see how far ti can go, only give ur input if u need to. You'd be surprise what kind of things women do when u actually let them be and listen to them

PLus "Jakey" who's a is openly gay anyways..so no worries

[ThreeEleven]

"Troubleshooting"

Dude, he's gay. Every girl wants to have gay friends. You have nothing to worry about.

[zëro]

Hey, we're all nerds here right?

[Allnighte]

maybe she just likes to keep prior arrangements and doesnt like to cancel them

[jkoebel]

Umm, go early, then let her go out after?

[zëro]

Yeah, that's what happened, but not without a kiss first

[RobCrezz]

Dont try to change her plans, its only a second date.

[Bluesultan's # 3 Bitch]

this info is for if you have to encounter mr. fab

gay friends are awesome man they are not a hard hoop to jump through at all. just dress overly fab (for a straight guy) wear a nice cologne and then talk him up for a bit then when the time is right make a break for your bait.

trust me gay guys can get you a lot of poon because girls flock to them. and you pick off the stragglers. granted this info doesn't pertain to the date aspect, but still.

[mainbrotha]

Originally Posted by ThreeEleven

"Troubleshooting"

Dude, he's gay. Every girl wants to have gay friends. You have nothing to worry about.

that's not really his problem though. He's afraid of her using jakey as an excuse to ditch him. He wants things to go smoothly so she'll want to stay with him rather than leave jakey.

If you ask me, the best thing to do would be to respect her plans but play it off like you have other things you can be doing anyways and it's no big deal. That way if she's having a great time and doesn't want to leave, you play the "you can't have me" thing that girls seem to love to chase after.

[ABrokenPromise]

I agree. Make plans during the same time slot as her said plans. That way you don't reek of desperation. Don't let her call ALL of the shots such as cancelling w/ Jakey at the last minute and expecting that you have nothing better to do than spend time w/ her. The better you treat him (if you do meet him) the more points you will score w/ her.

[ThreeEleven]

Originally Posted by zëro

Hey, we're all nerds here right?

Just don't go of nullifying her parameters.

[Splash]

She blew off an invite from him while she was hanging out with you

She's gonna stick to previously made plans with a friend in spite of you being avaliable

Sounds to me like this girl has a head on her shoulders, isn't clingy and honors previous commitments. Sounds like a cool chick.

Don't make her ditch her plans- plan something that will end and give her enough time to go get ready. Chances are she'll really appreciate the fact that you're understanding and not possesive (esp on the 2nd date), leaving you open for a "let's finish this up another time" date #3

[[+Duracell-]]

Originally Posted by Allnighte

maybe she just likes to keep prior arrangements and doesnt like to cancel them