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Getting My Girlfriend to Orgasm Through Penetration

My girlfriend and I just started having sex and I am having a very difficult time getting her to orgasm during penetration.

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We've been fooling around for a long time. I can get her off through clitoral stimulation almost every time I try. She sometimes complains that it takes her a while to do it.

She just started on birth control for the first time so this may also be a factor to why she is having a hard time through penetration. I hear it makes it harder for her and she doesn't get as wet as before, so I have to use lube sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? Like, what has worked for you for getting your girl to orgasm through penetration, whether it be G-Spot or just straight up penetration. I am at my wits end here. We've tried missionary and her on top, and nothing seems to get her going. Any help would be much appreciated.
Old 11-01-2009, 07:46 PM BunnyFooFoo is offline  
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This is gonna sound stupid, but it's worked before, and this is the only way I can explain it: Use the clit like a joystick and pretend you're playing Atari with your pelvis.
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not all women can get off via penetration.
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not all women can get off via penetration

this.

Every girl is different. I will say, from my own experiences before and after taking birth control, I did notice a difference in lubrication after starting the pill. Just find a really good lube.
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not all women can get off via penetration.

i was gonna say this as well, but OP implies it wasnt an issue before his GF was on birth control
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Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't. I honestly don't worry that much about it anymore. If I can tell she's getting close, I'll make sure to run through some of the tricks, but both of us enjoy sex more when it's not focused on getting her off through penetration. But the mood has to be right, usually has to have been some foreplay, and sometimes it just ain't going to happen.

As far as the tricks, I don't know that you can predict it in advance. Clitoral stimulation usually works, but sometimes just getting pounded deep will set them off. Usually subsequent orgasms are easier than the first, so getting her off with oral then moving to penetration can work. But don't wear her out with the oral or she probably won't cum again. Once you get to know a girl you can have a better sense of what she likes and when.

As far as the mood thing goes, my wife was getting off just about every time on our honeymoon and I wasn't doing anything special. Just works out that way sometimes.
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my ex was this way... we just ended up doing this: i'd eat her out for like 20 mins and she'd cum so much my face would be wet... then we'd fuck.. i'd get off. and we'd both go to sleep.

if you do her doggy style, reach your arm around her leg and hit that clit with your middle finger and wail on that while you pound her. her clit is like the tip of the male penis, except hers has more nerve ending and thus feels better for her.

talk to her about it is usually the best thing to do. ask her what she likes.
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My current girlfriend got off through penetration, exactly once, after we'd been going at it for over an hour of non-stop intercourse (she likes it to go on for a while.) I've been unable to get it to happen again...

But that's okay, because I just do this now:

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eat her out for like 20 mins and she'd cum so much my face would be wet... then we'd fuck.. i'd get off. and we'd both go to sleep.

if you do her doggy style, reach your arm around her leg and hit that clit with your middle finger and wail on that while you pound her.

Not all women can get off from penetration, straight up. I'm pretty sure more can't than can, even. Certainly more cannot than can, reliably.
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not all women can get off via penetration.

my girl doesn't, and she tells me there's more to sex than orgasm and she finds clitoral orgasms too peaceful. Not sure if I believe her, but I want her to be honest with me so I can understand her needs so she has as much fun as I do and she knows that

edit: she likes more foreplay (and thats just one thing) and gets off easier with it. Find out what turns your girl on, even ask her, and you'll do fine. She doesn't like it when I focus too much on orgasm, where she told me to "stop and just fuck me"
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my ex was this way... we just ended up doing this: i'd eat her out for like 20 mins and she'd cum so much my face would be wet... then we'd fuck.. i'd get off. and we'd both go to sleep.
This is always a good option. Takes the performance pressure off you, she gets off, and you primed the pump (so to speak) if she's going to cum again during penetration. Everybody wins.

It can be a little monotonous though. Sometimes a girl just wants to be fucked without a lot of foreplay (so says the wife )

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talk to her about it is usually the best thing to do. ask her what she likes.
TSRH. Then again, she might not know if they're both fairly inexperienced.
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Not all women can get off from penetration, straight up. I'm pretty sure more can't than can, even. Certainly more cannot than can, reliably.

Hard to tell the difference between "cannot" and "don't." The average man lasts something like 3 minutes after penetration, so one imagines many women don't exactly get a real chance to find out whether they can orgasm from penetration or not.
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This is always a good option. Takes the performance pressure off you, she gets off, and you primed the pump (so to speak) if she's going to cum again during penetration. Everybody wins.

It can be a little monotonous though. Sometimes a girl just wants to be fucked without a lot of foreplay (so says the wife )


TSRH. Then again, she might not know if they're both fairly inexperienced.

then... you've got a problem... if you're both inexperienced. my first bang said to me "you're really good at this, you swear you're a virgin?"... i contribute it to porn.

if you're both inexperienced.. go watch some porn and take notes. some chicks you can tell by looking at their face they're not getting any pleasure from the penetration and thus you gotta do something else.


if you don't mind... in the middle of banging her, go down on her and eat her out. tongue that clit really fast with the tip of your tongue. then suck on it pulling the clit deep into your mouth. hit it with the back of your tongue (more taste receptors there/more texture), then go back to fucking her.

just keep in mind: that clit has thousands of nerve endings, any and all time you can spend on it will allow her to get off. maybe mix it up and get her thinking about something else by sticking a finger in her but while she's on top. if you need lube, lick your fingers before putting it in her butt, or stick a finger in her pussy while you're railing her.

all things have been proven to work. be adventurous in the bedroom.
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Hard to tell the difference between "cannot" and "don't." The average man lasts something like 3 minutes after penetration, so one imagines many women don't exactly get a real chance to find out whether they can orgasm from penetration or not.

gotta drink more then. not to blab.. but if you're pleasantly drunk.. you could last for hours.. assuming you can keep it up that long.
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Some girls just can't. Its important to have good open sexual communication and find out what she likes. Can she even get off from penetration?

I have had both extremes. I dated a girl that could NOT get off from penetration at all, but I could work magic on her clit in just the right way with my fingers and shed be done in 30 seconds. She didn't get off once from penetration in years (I still talk to her and none of her more recent conquests were able to do anything for her either). On the other hand, my most recent ex could have multiple orgasms from penetration... I just had to go at it and she would get off no problem. After dating said previous girl I honestly took a long time to even believe her. All girls are BUILT DIFFERENTLY. Lots and lots of girls can't get off through penetration but if you are both mature and open you can still have a great sex life.
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Majority of women can't get off through penetration. A lot of them can get off with clitoral stimulation. And don't think women's sexual experiences are like men's. We use sex as a means to an end. They can be in it for just the experience. And for god's sake PLEASE do not take sexual tips from porn. It's like trying to become a better ball player by watching Major League.

Ultimately though, talk to her about it. If you can't communicate openly about this, you're headed for other problems.
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