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dealing with people who talk in circles and never answer your question

I hate people who do this.

My newly appointed manager at work is like this. I ask a question, 30min of him talking in circles goes by, I forgot the actual answer to my question, or maybe he never really answered it. I can't take this. It is such a waste of time. I need to learn some new things at work and when I ask questions, It's a pain in the ass. Seriously. I try to stop him and interupt and say I don't understand, but he doesn't even give me a change. I don't want to be rude, but how can I get him to slow down?

FYI, the guy is a nuclear engineer in a business role, so his thinking and explaining is a little different. After I finally understand something, I realize, Why didn't he just say XYZ or make it simple? Why did he make it sounds so complicated?

Any suggestions on how to handle this?

I've dealt with people like this before by just ignoring them and not talking to them, but he's my boss...
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Old 09-08-2010, 03:12 PM oleo is offline  
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Do I have to ban you from new threads for another week for this no content shit?
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This is EL, not GenMay. Please stay on topic.
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Old 09-08-2010, 03:27 PM oleo is offline  
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Just because its EL doesnt mean you can make worthless threads.
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if it's just a quick question.. maybe send an email??
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Email, or just be honest with him.

Or, you could try whenever you start into a question, say "Real quick, how about blah blah" or something similar. Act and speak like you have somewhere you need to be quickly. Make up a story if you care that much.
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My advice: grow up.
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Ask them to get to the point when you first start the conversation. Well, without actually saying "Will you get to the point".
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You can't really avoid dealing with someone who is talkative. But you can make sure that you get your answer by concluding the conversation with a summary. Like "so what you've told me is A,B, and C, right?"
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In his defense, the guy is an engineer.

If someone comes by my office and asks me if they can do X, there's generally a limited set of circumstances under which they can do X, and if they decide they can do X anywhere, they might find themselves breaking a bunch of stuff. So the explanation sometimes has to come before the answer, just so the person understands the consequences of their actions.

He might be doing the same. If he is, take the opportunity to learn something from the guy, instead of getting annoyed at his explanations.
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My advice: grow up.

word. Just tell him what you told us.
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Didn't you want to be a professional musician or something a few weeks ago? What is your deal, dude?
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Didn't you want to be a professional musician or something a few weeks ago? What is your deal, dude?
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In his defense, the guy is an engineer.

If someone comes by my office and asks me if they can do X, there's generally a limited set of circumstances under which they can do X, and if they decide they can do X anywhere, they might find themselves breaking a bunch of stuff. So the explanation sometimes has to come before the answer, just so the person understands the consequences of their actions.

He might be doing the same. If he is, take the opportunity to learn something from the guy, instead of getting annoyed at his explanations.

this x100000. i'm dealing with a similar situation now. even though i qualified my answer to them in a nice 3 paragraph email, i still have guys coming back angry that they aren't getting what i told them, even though i clearly defined the circumstances under which my answer was valid. some guys just want a number they can plug into their model, but it's not that simple. ever.

but who knows? the guy just might like to talk.
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take more control over the conversation!

if you are prepared about what you're going to ask. instead of asking a major open ended question, try asking simple questions that will get the important information. once you have it, take it and go.
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